SPOKANE VALLEY, Wash. -

If you spend Memorial Day mourning the loss of a husband, wife, child, or parent, you're not alone. That was the message of a memorial service Sunday at the Valley 4th Memorial church.

Each year, members add names of local soldiers killed overseas to a memorial they started in 2011. Sunday they added 13 more names. Each soldier now has a plaque imbedded in stone, like the memories their families have of them.

"We don't belong to this church, but they're still reaching out to reach others who've lost loved ones and it just shows a lot of community and love and support and it really means a lot," Nick Lallier said.

Specialist Jarrod Lallier died on June 18th, 2012 in Afghanistan. Sunday, his his uncle Nick honored him by coming to the service and laying a flower by his nephew's name.

"(This Memorial Day) will be the first one since Jarrod passed. We've always honored Memorial Day, but this year it's going to be different because Jarrod's gone," Nick Lallier said.

If you've lost someone, Memorial Day may re-open old wounds. For the families at the service, it certainly will. But they also hope to heal those wounds together, at a time when it's the hardest to do it.

Church leaders say the memorial is open to the public. They will continue to add names to the memorial, with the hope of one day not having to anymore names to add.