SPOKANE, Wash. -

Parents are looking for ways to monitor their children's social media activities after students at two area high schools received death threats from a fellow student.

Two days ago a 16-year-old Shadle Park High School student was arrested after she made threats to one of her fellow students as well as another student from a nearby district. Now school administrators are asking parents to make changes so that another incident doesn't occur.

In the Anderson household privacy while communicating, no matter what form, isn't really an option.

"It has always stood that I will monitor phones, internet, TV, video games," mother Shelley Anderson said.

Anderson's philosophy is if she doesn't have the passwords to it, her kids don't get to use it.

"It is invasive and it's my job as a parent to be invasive," she said.

Anderson added that because she actively monitors her kids, she doesn't have to worry about them being involved in an incident like the one her son's classmate was in that resulted in an arrest.

"There are certain times when I want my privacy but at the same time there's nothing bad," Shelley's son Joshua said.

Joshua is the youngest of three and just turned 18 a few weeks ago. He says for the most part it doesn't faze him when his mom goes through Facebook.

"When I first signed up for it my mom was like 'I'm going to have the password whether you like it or not,'" Joshua said.

Administrators encourage parents to do this type of monitoring on a regular basis.

"Kids need to be online today to go to school, it's just a fact of life, there's no getting around it, but what are they doing online are you monitoring what social medias they're involved in," School Resource Officer Deputy Ed Cashman said.

Cashman suggested looking through their Facebook, online games and email. He even suggests Googling your child's name to see what accounts come up, just in case there's one you don't know about.

"They have their mom and dad Facebook account where they talk to grandma and grandpa and post family pictures and then they have their alter ego Facebook account," Cashman explained.

He said it's hard to be not invasive about it, but when it comes down to it kids who have parents that monitor are less likely to become involved in a cyber bullying incident.

"It is my job as a parent to get them to their 18th birthday and get them there with the least amount of trouble for them," Shelley Anderson said.