SPOKANE, WASH - On Valentine's Day, it's easy to be romantic. Flowers, cards and candy are everywhere, reminding you to take care of your Valentine. But, what about every other day of the year? Is chivalry dead?
Some may call it a "Hallmark holiday", but Valentine's Day is a great time to show off your romantic side. You don't even have to work that hard to find ways to express your love. But, when it comes to basic romantic gestures, are we falling short?
"My fiance is amazing," said Sarah Carlino of Spokane. "He opens doors for me, he carries stuff for me, he cooks dinner, he calls to check in. I don't think [chivalry] is dead at all."
Carlino is, clearly, happily engaged. She's also a member of the Panel of Women, sharing advice and a woman's perspective every Thursday morning on 92.9 ZZU-FM. She speaks lovingly of her husband-to-be but realizes for some, chivalry is a thing of the past.
"I don't think it's dead. I think it depends on how they're raised and who they're dating or whatever."
Before we decide if chivalry is dead, let's define it. Dictionary.com says chivalry is "the sum of ideal qualities of a knight". So, that's dead for sure. But, the second definition says chivalry is simply "courteous behavior, especially towards women".
"Opening doors is big," said fellow Panel of Women guest Emily Johnson. "Walking a girl to her car after a date, paying for a meal is chivalrous. Going above and beyond and doing things for your date is kind of nice."
If you believe the surveys, men and women are split on the subject. 75 percent of men say they are consistently romantic and take care of the women in their lives. But, 40 percent of women say their boyfriends and husbands are never romantic. The Panel of Women, however, is largely optimistic about the men in their lives.
Jessica Carson said of one date, "He moved me to the inside and stood on the outside and we walked down the road that way."
"They don't need to take their coat off and put it over a mud puddle for you to walk on, that's too much." said Coco Jensen. "But, I think it's good to have that. It makes everybody feel good."
But, the panelists agree; in some areas, men have gotten a little lazy when it comes to traditionally chivalrous acts.
"I went to this guy's house awhile back - he didn't even walk me to my car!" said Johnson. "It was night time, he opened the door and was, like, see you later!"
Most women just want the basics: open the door, pay for the first date and don't text the first time you ask out a woman. And, women bear some responsibility here, too. Simply say thank you, and reward the chivalrous men in your life.
"I don't think it's dead," said Jensen. "If it's appreciated, it will stay alive. It will be around for a long time."